I am currently reading a book by Nido Qubein entitled “How to Get Anything You Want.” I am all about self-improvement and evolving and I love anything positive! The author suggests in one of the exercises in the book to write some letters/expressions of gratitude. The whole premise is about acceptance and thankfulness and your attitude. That old saying is true “Attitude is everything!” Part of the exercise is to think about and list ten positive attributes that you possess and then to create expressions of gratitude based on these attributes One letter is addressed to God (you may modify to fit your belief system), to show gratitude for the unique qualities that you possess. Another is addressed to others in your life and lastly, you guessed it, one addressed to yourself. I would encourage you to try this same exercise and if you are brave enough, I challenge you to share it. This was an absolutely empowering experience and I am glad that I will be able to reflect on this in the years to come. Emotions are fleeting, so whenever I am having one of those days, I have these letters to remind me of the truly beautiful soul that I possess. It’s not arrogance, it is confidence. There’s a difference. I have combined my personal letters and included them below.
Thank you for all the beautiful, unique qualities that you have blessed me with. Thank you for instilling in me a moral compass. Thank you for helping me to be a good person. Thank you for giving me the parents that you gave me. Thank you for giving me the children you blessed me with. I have gained so much wisdom from them and appreciate all they have equipped me with. Thank you for all the people that you have placed in my life to play whatever role they have played. Their actions have stretched me and caused me to grow. Sometimes growing pains hurt but they ultimately made me better.
To everyone who has ever had the privilege of being in my life in whatever role you may have played. Thank you. Friends, Family, Co-Workers, Husband, Lovers, Adversary, whatever, I harbor no ill-feelings towards any of you. Every experience was for my benefit. Every betrayal, every moment of joy, every ounce of pain, embarrassment, hurt, pleasure- I take ownership of it all. I know it was designed to make me a better person. All of those moments and emotions have caused me to grow tremendously . I thank you! I release you. I am forever grateful for the encounter and I am better because of it!
And lastly, Self.
I am so very proud of you. You are AMAZING! I am glad that you are able to see the beautiful qualities that you possess and not focus on the negative things. You have faced many challenges in your life but yet you have OVERCOME some things that were designed to kill you-mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically. You don’t let the way people have treated you hold you back, even though you have every right to retaliate, you consistently CHOOSE the high road. Even though that is not always easy, you persevere and continue to grow and develop.
YOU WILL GO FAR. You are destined for greatness. You are exactly on the RIGHT path.