This morning, I feel inspired. I am inspired to write, to share, and to express creatively this moment in time. At this moment, life has revealed another lesson that causes me to reflect on “the point of it all.” Writing has always been therapeutic and cathartic for me. It allows me to really be myself; flawed and all. I don’t have to edit myself for fear of intimidating or offending. I don’t have to wonder or even care, for that matter, how it makes anyone feel once it’s out there. It allows me to be myself; uncensored and unconcerned. I don’t need validation. No one has to love my writing, because it’s only for me. I have the choice to share it or to keep it to myself. I can share fragments or the entire body of work. Friendship is similar to writing; or at least in theory the concept of friendship is somewhat similar. You see, when you are blessed to have a true friend, you may feel the same way as well. Think of your closest friend. There is a commonality in the theme amongst those that say they are the best of friends. Friendship is a “no judgment” zone. This is one of the reasons that you (friends) may be so close. You can confide in your friend and not worry about if they think you are weird or crazy and they will still love you the same. You have an option to share every moment in your life, past or present, good, bad or indifferent. Genuine friendship is like a blank sheet of paper. You put the pen to paper and just let it flow; and it flows out beautifully and naturally. The best part about it is the feeling of complete euphoria once you begin to write; much like confiding in your closest friend. You don’t have to worry if you spelled a word incorrectly, if the sentences make sense, if you used the correct grammar. You can write as much or as little as you like.
Consequently though, all of those great attributes about the liberty of writing and friendship is the same thing that sets the two apart. In the process of writing, there’s this thing called editing. Is editing really necessary? Editing is censorship. It is also elective. One would be wise to edit their writing if they are planning to share. Writing to share must be manipulated and formulated so that it suits a certain purpose. Writing to share also has to be manipulated so that it meets certain expectations of your targeted audience. Here is the gray area. Some people treat friendships like a piece of writing that is going to be shared. You cannot manipulate your friends so that they suit your purpose. “That’s not how it works. That’s not how any of this works.” So it leaves the question, does friendship really come with all of these great amenities? Is their liberty in friendship? Is friendship really a “no judgment zone?” My opinion is definitive. NO. There is no such thing. For all the reasons that were mentioned above; you see because even in the confidence of your closest friend, you have to still be “considerate.” Before you are even allowed to truly be “yourself,” you have to take their feelings, experiences and emotions into consideration. Editing yourself is not elective in your friendship, contrary to popular belief. It is imperative if you value it. It sounds nice and flowery to say or think that you don’t have to but the reality is that when dealing with people, ultimately, self-preservation wins. This means that no matter how close you think you are with someone, if there is a line drawn between you and them, they will always pick themselves. You will always pick yourself. This is why editing is essential in preserving the relationship between friends. You cannot maintain a friendship and be totally uncensored. It is just not possible.
I’d like to hear your thoughts on this. Would you say that this is true or am I way off base?