Common Misconceptions About Women Who Wear Makeup

Disclaimer: It is of my own opinion that ALL women are beautiful, with or without makeup. What makes a woman beautiful, in my opinion, is how she confidently carries herself and her attitude.
This is not my first blog about makeup and I am almost certain that it won’t be the last. I don’t want to turn this into a beauty blog however; I feel that it is a part of the journey of womanhood. When it comes to makeup, it would appear to me that there are two kinds of women in the world: Those who wear makeup and those who don’t. No one is born with the perfect highlight and contour so they have at least at one point in their life been the girl/woman that didn’t wear makeup. The decision to wear makeup could have been influenced by their favorite celebrity/artist, cultural influences or their own perceptions of beauty. There was a point in my life where I can honestly say that while I was “the woman that didn’t wear makeup,” I had some of these same misconceptions about the women that did.
When I was younger, I did experiment with makeup. I wore foundation and eyeliner and lip gloss. While in college, I was introduced to liquid eyeliner. I was never taught the proper application of makeup, so I just winged it, no pun intended. There were no online tutorials and not nearly as many recognized makeup artists that are so easily accessible to us as there is now. I was always the woman that openly complimented another woman if I thought she was dressed nice or if I thought she was pretty. It came natural to me. I was inspired to write about these misconceptions because they seem to cause so much division and separation amongst women. There is already so much happening in the world that divides us as a nation, I think that a woman’s decision to wear makeup or not, is something that doesn’t deserve anymore of our time or attention. By no means do I claim to be a feminist, but I believe that women are the strongest people on the planet. If women would work harder to encourage, uplift and inspire other women, I do believe the world would be a better place. That’s another blog for another day, let’s get to the misconceptions.
I initially planned to create a list of ten, but I enlisted the help of some of my Sweetbeats, and together, they helped me come up with a more exhaustive list. “Sweetbeats” is an online community for women of African Descent that just so happen to be makeup lovers. The group is comprised of aspiring MUA’s (makeup artists), established MUA’s and everyday women. It’s a community of sisters, in every sense of the word, which leads me to my first misconception:
First misconception: “Women of Color wear makeup to look white.” No one wears makeup to look white. Not even white women. No elaboration needed.
The next misconception is a combination of statements, all having to do with men. “Women wear makeup for men or the woman that wears makeup is out to steal everyone’s man.” This couldn’t be further from the truth. In reality, men don’t really care if your winged liner is perfect or if your highlight is “popping.” I think what men care about is the fact that the woman took time on her appearance. Personal grooming and pride in one’s appearance is very attractive, for both sexes. As far as makeup wearing women being “man stealers,” there is no direct correlation to someone wearing makeup and being a man stealer, let’s be clear. That’s a moral issue, which leads to the next misconception, “Women who wear a certain color lipstick, denotes a certain sexual behavior.” I am sure you already know the color lipstick.
“Women who wear makeup have bad skin.” Ask yourself this question, if a woman has bad skin, would she still get talked about?
“Real Women don’t wear makeup.” This is probably the most absurd argument that I have heard regarding the issue. A woman is not a “real woman” because she wears makeup? What then is the definition of a “real woman?” I know this is usually something that it is thrown around in the “natural” community. It is commonly believed that a woman that wears makeup dislikes her natural beauty, that she hates herself. This couldn’t be further from the truth. On the other hand, the argument is that a “woman that wears makeup is stuck up believes that she is better than others.” It can’t be both. It’s like you are damned if you do and damned if you don’t. So am I confident or insecure if I wear makeup?
I have said this before and I will say it again: There are many reasons why people wear makeup, but the most basic reason is because we love it and we want to. If you are have been guilty of believing these misconceptions, stop and ask yourself these questions, are any of these misconceptions credible? How did I come to this conclusion? Have I sat down with women and asked them why they wear makeup? And lastly, why does it matter to me so much what another woman decides to do with her face? What does this say about me and how I feel about myself?
That’s the real question.

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LISTEN

It’s amazing how sometimes we are able to hear everything. It’s a Thursday afternoon and I am sitting on the porch at one of the grandmother’s homes and I can hear everything. I can hear all the leaves on all the trees. I can hear all the insects, even the ones burrowed in the dirt. My children are playing on the sidewalk with bubbles. They are laughing and talking. They are enjoying each other without any cares in the world. 

They are oblivious to the fact that all across the world people are in constant fear and turmoil. They are unaware that men that look like them are being murdered by those who took an oath to serve and protect. They don’t know that they too, will later be prejudged by the color of their skin and not the content of their character. It’s really saddenning.

Moments after, I am faced with the thought that things could always be worse. My kids still have me and I still have them. And for this moment, I am going to enjoy it. Nothing else in the world matters at this moment. I am here, I am healthy and I am going to listen.

Behind the Scenes Blogging Tag

This blog was more of an exercise for me. Thanks to https://emilyr0se.com/author/emilyxr0se/ for posting this idea.
I’ve been hitting a brick wall here lately when it comes to my blogs. I have things that I want to say but somehow, it’s not coming out. 

Where do you blog?
I generally blog everywhere. Most of the time I use my Word Press App on my phone. Sometimes I use my laptop. The laptop makes it much easier to edit.

Where do you find inspiration for your blog posts?
The inspirations for my blog posts come from everyday life. Sometimes it comes from reading a quote or real life events.

How long does it take you to write a blog?
This is a tricky question. It really depends on the passion behind the topic. I have a few blogs that I have started, some as far back as a few weeks. Sometimes I will get inspired to write about a certain topic but it may end up being just a blurb. I do plan to finish them though.

Do you plan your blog posts?
Not at all. I have a couple that I know  will probably have more than one blog post about the topic, so I create a series but they are not planned. They are more like a continuation of thoughts.

Do you use a notebook to track your ideas?
Occasionally. A notebook or the notepad app on my phone.

What’s your favorite type of blog to write?
I don’t really have a favorite type. I just enjoy writing.

Who knows about your blog?
I created a facebook page just for my blog so some of my friends and family.

What are some of your biggest blogging pet peeves?
I don’t really have any blogging pet peeves. I think writing is really personal, so there’s really no right or wrong way to do it.

I left out a couple of questions in reference to my camera and editing. This was a great idea to get the juices flowing. If you are a fellow blogger, I would definitely recommend this as a way to get yourself in writing mode.

Behind the Scenes Blogging Tag

This blog was more of an exercise for me. Thanks to https://emilyr0se.com/author/emilyxr0se/ for posting this idea.
I’ve been hitting a brick wall here lately when it comes to my blogs. I have things that I want to say but somehow, it’s not coming out. 

Where do you blog?

I generally blog everywhere. Most of the time I use my Word Press App on my phone. Sometimes I use my laptop. The laptop makes it much easier to edit.

Where do you find inspiration for your blog posts?
The inspirations for my blog posts come from everyday life. Sometimes it comes from reading a quote or real life events.

How long does it take you to write a blog?
This is a tricky question. It really depends on the passion behind the topic. I have a few blogs that I have started, some as far back as a few weeks. Sometimes I will get inspired to write about a certain topic but it may end up being just a blurb. I do plan to finish them though.

Do you plan your blog posts?
Not at all. I have a couple that I know  will probably have more than one blog post about the topic, so I have a series but they are not planned. They are more like a continuation of thoughts.

Do you use a notebook to track your ideas?
Occasionally. A notebook or the notepad app on my phone.

What’s your favorite type of blog to write?
I don’t really have a favorite type. I jist enjoy writing.

Who knows about your blog?
I created a facebook page just for my blog so some of my friends and family.

What are some of your biggest blogging pet peeves?
I don’t really have any blogging pet peeves. I think writing is really personal, so there’s really no right or wrong way to do it.

I left out a couple of questions in reference to my camera and editing. This was a great idea to get the juices flowing. If you are a fellow blogger, I would definitely recommend this as a way to get yourself in writing mode.

Backwards Fundamentals-1

I guess that you are wondering why I entitled this piece “Backwards Fundamentals.” Word Press so cleverly created a course for “first-time” bloggers or newbies. It’s pretty cool actually, especially if you need a little help or a little direction when getting started. The problem is, I started writing before I knew that this great tool existed, so I am going to go back and try some of their suggestions. This will help get me into the practice of writing more frequently and to increase the diversity of content on the site. If you decide to go through the “Learning the Fundamentals” course by WordPress, I have personally numbered them to correspond with the order of the days.
So, and I just realized that I grossly overuse this word as a transition. I must work on that. But anyway, the beginning of anything usually requires an introduction. I hate the idea of forced introductions. I guess that’s why I am just now getting to this blog. We all know how they play out: the first person gives their name, other information that is usually not relevant to anything and then people that follow tend to say the same thing, nothing more, and nothing less.

Who am I and why am I here?

On the surface, I am just a woman with stories to tell. I am here to share those stories. I am here to help someone, to let them know that they are not alone. I am here because I love to write. I have always wanted to become a published author and blogging will help me to get more focused. I am here to document. My writings are my photographs. This blog is not content specific in the sense that it will be all about one topic. There will be many things that I will write that I will have and things that I love.
I look forward to reading your responses and interacting with you while on this part of my journey in this thing called Life.

Sisireia