Common Misconceptions About Women Who Wear Makeup

Disclaimer: It is of my own opinion that ALL women are beautiful, with or without makeup. What makes a woman beautiful, in my opinion, is how she confidently carries herself and her attitude.
This is not my first blog about makeup and I am almost certain that it won’t be the last. I don’t want to turn this into a beauty blog however; I feel that it is a part of the journey of womanhood. When it comes to makeup, it would appear to me that there are two kinds of women in the world: Those who wear makeup and those who don’t. No one is born with the perfect highlight and contour so they have at least at one point in their life been the girl/woman that didn’t wear makeup. The decision to wear makeup could have been influenced by their favorite celebrity/artist, cultural influences or their own perceptions of beauty. There was a point in my life where I can honestly say that while I was “the woman that didn’t wear makeup,” I had some of these same misconceptions about the women that did.
When I was younger, I did experiment with makeup. I wore foundation and eyeliner and lip gloss. While in college, I was introduced to liquid eyeliner. I was never taught the proper application of makeup, so I just winged it, no pun intended. There were no online tutorials and not nearly as many recognized makeup artists that are so easily accessible to us as there is now. I was always the woman that openly complimented another woman if I thought she was dressed nice or if I thought she was pretty. It came natural to me. I was inspired to write about these misconceptions because they seem to cause so much division and separation amongst women. There is already so much happening in the world that divides us as a nation, I think that a woman’s decision to wear makeup or not, is something that doesn’t deserve anymore of our time or attention. By no means do I claim to be a feminist, but I believe that women are the strongest people on the planet. If women would work harder to encourage, uplift and inspire other women, I do believe the world would be a better place. That’s another blog for another day, let’s get to the misconceptions.
I initially planned to create a list of ten, but I enlisted the help of some of my Sweetbeats, and together, they helped me come up with a more exhaustive list. “Sweetbeats” is an online community for women of African Descent that just so happen to be makeup lovers. The group is comprised of aspiring MUA’s (makeup artists), established MUA’s and everyday women. It’s a community of sisters, in every sense of the word, which leads me to my first misconception:
First misconception: “Women of Color wear makeup to look white.” No one wears makeup to look white. Not even white women. No elaboration needed.
The next misconception is a combination of statements, all having to do with men. “Women wear makeup for men or the woman that wears makeup is out to steal everyone’s man.” This couldn’t be further from the truth. In reality, men don’t really care if your winged liner is perfect or if your highlight is “popping.” I think what men care about is the fact that the woman took time on her appearance. Personal grooming and pride in one’s appearance is very attractive, for both sexes. As far as makeup wearing women being “man stealers,” there is no direct correlation to someone wearing makeup and being a man stealer, let’s be clear. That’s a moral issue, which leads to the next misconception, “Women who wear a certain color lipstick, denotes a certain sexual behavior.” I am sure you already know the color lipstick.
“Women who wear makeup have bad skin.” Ask yourself this question, if a woman has bad skin, would she still get talked about?
“Real Women don’t wear makeup.” This is probably the most absurd argument that I have heard regarding the issue. A woman is not a “real woman” because she wears makeup? What then is the definition of a “real woman?” I know this is usually something that it is thrown around in the “natural” community. It is commonly believed that a woman that wears makeup dislikes her natural beauty, that she hates herself. This couldn’t be further from the truth. On the other hand, the argument is that a “woman that wears makeup is stuck up believes that she is better than others.” It can’t be both. It’s like you are damned if you do and damned if you don’t. So am I confident or insecure if I wear makeup?
I have said this before and I will say it again: There are many reasons why people wear makeup, but the most basic reason is because we love it and we want to. If you are have been guilty of believing these misconceptions, stop and ask yourself these questions, are any of these misconceptions credible? How did I come to this conclusion? Have I sat down with women and asked them why they wear makeup? And lastly, why does it matter to me so much what another woman decides to do with her face? What does this say about me and how I feel about myself?
That’s the real question.

My Pink Haven

The following is information that I have included in my flyer informing people about my online breast cancer support group, “My Pink Haven.”
As one can imagine, being diagnosed with breast cancer was the worst day of my life. I, like many others, looked at my diagnosis as a death sentence. However, I was determined that I was not going to leave my babies. They needed their mommy.
I’ve met some wonderful women on my journey. Being diagnosed with Breast Cancer at the age of 35 was one of the most mentally challenging things that I have ever had to go through. I was prepared for the worst but I am so thankful for my journey. It was important to maintain a positive outlook. This was why I was inspired to start an online support group. More specifically, I wanted to connect women in the state of South Carolina, so that if they ever desired to meet, it would be feasible.  With the group being online, it allows women to participate from the comfort of their own homes. I want to encourage other women and to give them a place where they felt comfortable. It’s not always easy to talk to our friends and family about what’s going on with us. Many times, they don’t understand. Other times, we may be too embarrassed to discuss certain things. This is why I was inspired to start My Pink Haven.
My Pink Haven is exactly as the name suggests. It is a place where women from all over South Carolina whom are battling breast cancer can go for encouragement, advice and support from other cancer fighters and survivors. My Pink Haven provides a platform for women to share without the fear of being judged. It’s also a place where they are free to post questions, concerns and praise reports, etc.  All member information (profile names, posts) is confidential and should not be discussed outside of the online forum.

Steps to join My Pink Haven:
1. Send a inbox request to join to my personal FB account “Grace Favor Mercy”
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2. Send an email request to mypinkhavenmph@gmail.com